Anthony Moore is one of the unicorns that was actually born and raised in San Diego. Despite his father’s urges, he ended up with a degree in English instead of barking orders in the military. He had a terrible addiction to pornography, beginning at age 10. He eventually ended up in therapy and counseling for it, which finally addressed so much toxic baggage he had been carrying around for 15 years – family issues, total lack of self-worth, and an intense fear of people.
He started blogging 5 years ago as he wanted to be a writer and write about his experiences But after 4 years, he had only gained 200 subscribers. His stuff was crap! Looking back, he cringes when he read it. But this past year, he finally started getting serious, and he has gained over 15,000+ subscribers in the past few months. It wasn’t until he finally started opening up about the hard parts of his life – addiction, failure, rejection – that he finally started attracted readers.
His lowest point in life was when he became addicted to pornography at about age 10. The first person he opened to was his high school girlfriend of 2 years. She immediately dumped him, and then told all her friends that he was a porn-addict! His whole high school knew his deepest secret. That was probably one of the most embarrassing points of his life.
But he learned that being vulnerable, open, and transparent is exactly what attracts people in the first place. As Mark Manson wrote in The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, “Being open with your insecurities paradoxically makes you more confident and charismatic with others.”
He shares the following advice which changed his life completely.
“Stay in your lane.” Don’t worry about how much faster or slow other people are – just focus on your own speed. This eliminates the toxic comparing, jealousy, and insecurity the world encourages us to do.
Talking about his productivity secrets, he says that he knows his vital tasks. He is at the point where he still needs to be the guy talking with tech support, integrating email software, and answering all his emails – but he knows where he needs to spend his time. His three most important, vital tasks are writing, creating online courses, and selling/pitching.
He uses Medium.com for all his writing, as well as storing drafts, writing ebooks, and the like. He uses Evernote for all his note-taking. He carries a journal with him everywhere, and he writes quotes religiously from whatever he is reading. He plans rigorous goals in the most important parts of life – relationships, finance, health, writing, etc. and he follows up with the goals every week, month, quarter, and year.
He recommends the following important books for success and personal development that he has read in the past 5 years:
- Mindset by Carol Dweck,
- The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy,
- The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday,
- Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki,
- Grit by Angela Duckworth,
- Choose Yourself by James Altucher, and of course, The Bible.
How to transform your life?
He gives following advice – It’s gonna suck at first. Most people quit at the initial discomfort. If you can manage to get through the first few weeks of a new habit, you can pretty much do anything. Everything is a choice – consistency and perseverance beat luck, talent, genes, good intentions, and even quality.
Visit https://medium.com/@anthony_moore to know more about Anthony and read his articles.